When I started reading Chris Guillebeau's book on time anxiety, a powerful realization hit me: I was completely guilty of it. With each page, it felt as though the writer was speaking directly to my soul.
For years, I avoided celebrating my birthday. I'd ask myself, "What have I even achieved?" Is it truly worth celebrating?" I'd go silent, and if someone wished me a happy birthday, I'd feel nervous and anxious all day. Most of my friends didn't even know when my birthday was, and while those who did always wished me well, they never understood the deep questions it triggered within me.
I come from a family where everything I needed was provided. My dad was one of the best graduating students of his time, with many awards. Whenever I looked at him, I exuded such confidence ; he knew his field inside out, understood himself, and could speak eloquently about his journey. He has a loving family, of which I am a part. My dad always encouraged us but never pushed us beyond our limits. Yet, time anxiety never lets me truly enjoy the process of life.
I started working really early, driven by my own desire. My dad initially didn't approve, but he quietly watched me teach students math and English. Right after secondary school, I began teaching at a primary school. There was one girl who struggled with speaking, and her aunt wanted me to tutor her so she could attend school, as English was the language of instruction. I felt confident I could teach her, and you know what? She learned English and today she speaks it well. But I noticed that with every achievement, I immediately asked myself, "What next?" This constant focus on the future prevented me from enjoying the present process.
I graduated with a degree in General Medicine, but while I was studying, I also worked as a model and blogger, sold shoes, and collaborated with agencies to help international students travel. I wasn't lacking anything; my dad made sure I had all I needed. But I never rested. Some might say I was just hardworking, not letting my comfortable family background make me complacent. But knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have done it without truly enjoying the process. I was so fixed on the result that I missed out on the journey. I always had something to do, always a goal; there was no time to relax. I can't recall a single time in Ukraine when I went out to simply chill without feeling guilty that I could be doing something more "productive" than resting. It took me a long time to understand that resting is a crucial part of the process. So I kept racing.
My birthdays felt like time ticking away, and anxiety would often sweep me off my feet, leaving me in tears, trying to ease the burden. The more I achieved, the more restless I became; there was always something more. I tell you, at some point, all my focus was solely on the next thing I needed to do. I remember my graduation day with a Master's degree in Business Administration: all I could think about was starting my PhD. This robbed me of the joy of that significant milestone. I went home consumed by thoughts of the future instead of being joyful and grateful for the step I had just completed. I kept looking forward, even when I hadn't finished what I was currently doing, which truly robbed me of enjoying and appreciating the process .
Then, the war in Ukraine happened. I left everything behind—my house, which was still being renovated, most of my belongings—taking only a small bag and my big jacket. At one point, I thought maybe this intensity was just a phase, but it was about to change my entire life. Yet, I've learned that the war wasn't supposed to be the incident that cured my time anxiety. I had so much time to change before then, but I had to learn the hard way.
My transformation began when I went to Nigeria and stayed with my parents. I woke up every day without worrying about my house or the next steps. As the war continued, I knew my life had to move in a different direction; there was no rush. I simply told myself I wouldn't worry, and I didn't actively seek to do anything. My dad assured me everything I left in Ukraine could be replaced, and my mother echoed his words. I started living life without the self-imposed pressure to achieve.
When I arrived in the UK, I initially didn't want to make friends; I just stayed indoors. When I got a job as a visiting lecturer to teach nursing courses , I started going out and being productive again. But something fundamental had shifted within me.
The fast-paced UK environment can easily make you lose work-life balance. If you only focus on work and don't intentionally force that balance, you'll keep racing. At this point in my life, being in the UK, I was already so exhausted from the racing thoughts of "what next? achieve, achieve, achieve." I started to break down and cry a lot. It felt like I didn't understand myself because if I wasn't doing something, I felt like I wasn't moving towards my goals, even though I had achieved so much. The stress of constant pushing kept eating at me. Time anxiety didn't let me enjoy this new phase or even properly process the trauma of the war. At this point, I knew I couldn't do it alone. I started with prayer, and I learned that if you never appreciate and enjoy the process, you can never truly be fulfilled.
I began to go out for walks, and I noticed the many elderly people in Scotland, often walking slowly, taking their time with each step. Gradually, I started to see life as a process to live and enjoy, because the moment anyone takes their last breath, that's it. It took time for me to start enjoying the process of life and stop worrying about the next step. That's when I began traveling even more. I used to visit parks frequently in Ukraine, but when I was seated, my mind would wander instead of being present. Now, I explore many places, and when I'm there, my mind is fully engaged and not drifting away. I enjoy the moment and handle things differently. I see every moment as a blessing, and I intentionally make sure to savor it. I go out to have fun and do the things I love, and you all know taking road trips is one of them. I do it more and appreciate it deeply.
From time to time, time anxiety still tries to creep in , but it no longer alarms me or steals my joy. I know I'm doing well, I'm fine, and I know I'm still in the process, letting God lead. I took the right steps of asking myself realistic questions, like: "Do you want to keep rushing from one task to another, or do you want to ensure you enjoy this life God has given you?" I choose to enjoy the life God has given me.
Time anxiety is real. It steals your joy, takes away the moments you should cherish, and keeps you focused on what you don't have instead of appreciating the process. You keep trying to reach for the next thing without taking a breath or a break. Chris Guillebeau's book talks about the illusion of urgency and a better way to live. He explains the fear of running out of time, the constant thought of time passing you by, the feeling that there's something you should be doing but you don't know what it is, and not feeling in control of your circumstances. He also included research showing this type of worry is a cross-generational fear. Time anxiety is the worry of the past, present, and future — wishing you had done things differently, not knowing what to do right now, and worrying about what will happen in the days and years to come. This is not autism or ADHD .
The main idea of the book is to give us a real solution to all that "deadline dread," the guilt of not getting everything done, and that never-ending feeling of rushing. This book helps you completely change your relationship with time , moving away from fear and constant reaction and instead stepping into a more purposeful and intentional way of living.
He breaks it down like this:
- Understanding the Worry: He points out that this "time anxiety" is often a fear of falling behind, where your to-do lists and unfinished goals just live rent-free in your head, making you feel totally exhausted. He looks at why simple tasks can suddenly feel like huge, high-stakes challenges.
- Challenging the "Busy" Culture: The book really questions why we're so obsessed with packing every single second and why we think being constantly busy means we're successful. He argues that trying to "do it all" is a losing game that just leads to more frustration.
- Shifting Your Time Perspective: Instead of trying to "manage" time (which, let's be honest, time just keeps on ticking), Chris suggests we focus on managing our energy , our attention, and the choices we make .
- Real-World Tips and Mindset Shifts: He gives us actionable steps to fight that anxiety, like:
- Getting comfortable with unfinished lists: Accepting that you'll never cross off every single thing and letting go of that urge to "catch up."
- Embracing "good enough": Realizing that not everything needs to be perfect. Sometimes, doing things "poorly" (or just adequately) is exactly what you need to save energy for what truly matters.
- Rewriting your own "time rules": We all have these unspoken rules (like "I must answer every email instantly"). He helps us spot them and create new, healthier ones.
- Calming your nervous system: Simple things like breathing exercises to help you feel less overwhelmed in the moment.
- Making conscious trade-offs: Thinking about what's truly important to you and directing your limited energy there.
- Setting boundaries and saying no: Protecting your time and energy from things that don't serve your purpose.
- Focusing on what truly matters: Constantly asking yourself if what you're doing really counts, especially for the long haul, and being okay with letting go of things that don't.
In a nutshell, "Time Anxiety" is a powerful nudge to wake up from the "busy trap " and actually start enjoying your precious time on this planet. It's about letting go of the constant stress, the need to overcome everything, and truly starting to live a life that's intentional and joyful , rather than always feeling behind and overwhelmed.
Have you struggled with time anxiety? how did you handle it?
How interesting what reading a book can trigger in us, I've heard that anxiety is when we are so obsessed with the future that we forget to live in the present, the truth is that we cannot know what tomorrow holds, I had anxiety problems but it was caused by other causes, that made me distracted, that I took my mind to other places and neglected my present moment, it generated exhaustion and that triggered my low productivity, sadness, all of that blocked me, thanks to techniques such as meditation, astrology I was able to detect what was causing me anxiety and little by little I was changing habits, routines and even connections, I have improved a lot in this last year and I feel that I have returned to my own essence. Kisses.
ReplyDeleteWow, Rebecca, it's so true how a book can just crack open something deep inside us. I completely can relate to what you said about anxiety pulling us into the future and away from the present. It's like we're constantly trying to predict and control what's next, and it just drains us.
DeleteEs duro manejar la ansiedad, me alegra que lo hicieras. te mando un beso.
ReplyDeleteDealing with anxiety can be really, really tough.
Delete...anxiety has never been a problem for me, but it is for some of my grandchildren.
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting how different generations can face unique challenges, isn't it? Even if anxiety hasn't been a personal struggle for you, it's incredibly caring that you're recognizing it in your grandchildren and looking to understand it. That kind of awareness and support can make a huge difference for them.
DeleteYo padecí la ansiedad en un grado muy alto.
ReplyDeleteLa superé en su momento... pero no creo que haya acabado con ella.
He cambiado mi forma de vivir pero la ansiedad puede aparecer en cualquier momento.
Vivo el Aquí y el Ahora todo lo que puedo pero aún así a veces no es suficiente.
Saludos.
You've hit on such an important truth: for many of us, managing anxiety isn't a one-time fix, but an ongoing process. Even when we've made big shifts and learned to live more in the 'here and now,' those moments where it tries to creep back in can feel incredibly frustrating. It's like a muscle that sometimes still clenches, even after you've learned to relax it.
Deletehe books seems really iteresting, thanks fo sharing. i must to confess that living near a wood every time I need to have calm, I tend to wallk into the nature and t helps a lot!!
ReplyDeleteI completely agree, and I'm so glad the book sounds interesting. There's something truly magical about being in nature, isn't there? Walking in the woods is one of my go-to's for finding calm too. It's like the trees just soak up all the scattered thoughts and anxious energy. It's amazing how much a simple walk surrounded by nature can help us reconnect and just breathe. Thanks for sharing what works for you.
DeleteFascinating post, Melody, giving much pause for thought. It is too easy to be caught up in the maelstrom of modern life, particularly if you live in a busy, bustling city. There is so much to see and appreciate and we can't do that if we rush through life.
ReplyDeleteIt's a constant effort, isn't it? To slow down and actually see and appreciate all that's around us, rather than just rushing past. I'm learning that truly living means allowing ourselves those pauses, those moments to just be. Otherwise, we really do miss out on so much beauty and joy right in front of us. Thanks for adding such a thoughtful perspective.
DeleteBom dia Melody,
ReplyDeleteUm testemunho incrível sobre Ansiedade do tempo!
Graças a Deus que o livro a ajudou a olhar para si própria e entender que deveria relaxar e desfrutar mais os prazeres da vida. A nossa mente e corpo necessitam descansar, senão a vida deixa de ser vivida plenamente.
Sou ansiosa, já fui mais, a natureza e ocupação de tempos livres me têm ajudado a relaxar e a entender a vida sob outro prisma. Desfrutar simplesmente....
Muito obrigada pela partilha sobre a qual todos podemos muito aprender.
Beijinhos,
Emília
Hi, Emilia. It's wonderful to hear that you've also found your path to relaxation and a new perspective through nature and free time. There's such a profound wisdom in simply learning to enjoy the moment.
DeleteBom dia. Uma excelente quinta-feira com muita paz e saúde. Só quem passa por isso, sabe como é. Graças a Deus e ao médico, estou melhorando a cada dia. Obrigado por dividir conosco.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right. Only those who've truly been through it really know what it's like, that deep, unsettling feeling. I'm genuinely so happy to hear you're getting better every day, and it's awesome that you've got both faith and medical support helping you. That's a powerful combo. Thanks for sharing your journey too; it really helps to know we're not alone in this. I appreciate you sharing.
DeleteI think many people would need to read books like that one. As the author says, we should challenge dhe "busy" culture. I always see people running around me. In some corners of the town, located far fro the business centre, I see people who come and go while they are eating and talking on their mobile phones. That's an awful behaviour. We have to draw some red lines around us.
ReplyDeleteGreat post today, Melody. I've read it twice :-)
Thank you for writing down such interesting review about Chris Guillebeau's book.
I really think a lot of us could benefit from a book like this one. You totally hit on it that constant 'busy' culture is everywhere. I see it too, people just rushing through their day, not being able to enjoy the moment, from one activity to the other. Thanks so much for taking the time to read it twice. It really means a lot.
DeleteYou are both intelligent and driven, so you accomplish much, but you continue to learn about yourself and evolve,
ReplyDeleteAww, thank you so much for saying that. That's really sweet. It means a lot to hear, especially because it truly feels like a constant journey.
DeleteI need to check this book out. A have a couple of people close to me that struggle with it daily.
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You should totally check it out. It's such a helpful read, and honestly the world today needs this book.
DeleteI am in the process of learnig how to implement all of these tips into life. It is not easy. I feel exactly as you described it : " This constant focus on the future prevented me from enjoying the present process.". Now I am trying to enjou every moment of THE JOURNEY. Thank you. :)
ReplyDeleteI hear you, and honestly, you've hit on the hardest part: learning to actually implement these tips isn't easy at all. It's one thing to read about it, and a whole other challenge to rewire your brain when you've been conditioned to constantly focus on the future.
DeleteNon conosco il libro ma come te per diversi anni non ho festeggiato il compleanno adesso ristorante con gli amici e il tempo per navigare Nella tristezza lo lascio agli altri ha provato
ReplyDeleteOh, I totally get that. It's wild how many of us end up in a similar boat, isn't it? Like you, for years, I just couldn't bring myself to celebrate my birthday. No restaurants, no big plans, just a quiet day, maybe even a little sadness. It felt easier to just let others do their thing, while I kind of... opted out. There's something really personal about birthdays, and when they stop feeling like a celebration, it's hard to force it. I celebrated my birthday in a little big way with my partner, and i felt genuine happiness this year. Maybe one day it'll feel different for you, but for now, it's okay to just let it be what it is. Thanks for sharing that with me. It helps to know I'm not the only one who felt that way.
DeleteThat book sounds so interesting, Melody. I'm going to have to check it out. Thank you for visiting my blog & I look forward to your future posts. ~Andrea xoxo
ReplyDeleteYou should check it out. I promise you after reading it, you will recommend it to another person.
DeleteMelody, I so enjoyed reading your post and seeing how you have progressed in learning about time anxiety and how you've grown to the point of being able to live in the present, enjoying each moment rather than worrying about what was next. The book sounds really good. Thank you for sharing your life adventure and how you have allowed God to work in your heart. It's a blessing!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! It really means a lot to hear that you enjoyed the post. It's truly been an adventure, and I'm so grateful for the lessons learned along the way, especially about letting go of the constant 'what's next?' and actually soaking in the present. I now do what makes me happy. I no longer fix my mind on things I can not control for a long time. It's amazing how much more peaceful life feels when you start to really enjoy each moment and allow yourself to be led, trusting that everything will unfold as it should. And yes, the book is fantastic, definitely worth a read if you're curious. I'm so glad my story could be a blessing to you. That's the best compliment I could ask for.
DeleteThis is so interesting to me. I'm guilty of the same thing. My husband and I retired recently and have both remarked that we feel guilty when we're not doing something. Our culture seems to push that go, go, go attitude.
ReplyDeleteIt's important to have a good work ethic, but God also wants us to rest - and enjoy the creation He put us in. I like what you said about people walking slowly in Scotland taking in their surroundings. Thanks for sharing this.
PS - I didn't know you had been in Ukraine. You've been through a bunch in the last years and I appreciate you sharing it.
Oh my gosh, you completely get it. It's so validating to hear that you and your husband are feeling that same guilt about not doing something even in retirement. It really shows how deeply ingrained that 'go, go, go' culture is in us. It's like our brains are still stuck in overdrive, even when the external pressure is gone. God wants us to rest. He created the Earth for us to inhabit and enjoy. But now, we've created a routine that's consuming us. We're endlessly seeking validation and achievement.
DeleteAnd yes, those older folks here in Scotland, just casually strolling and taking everything in—they're my silent teachers now, honestly. About Ukraine, it was definitely an incredibly tough and transformative period. I am still putting my words together and will write about it soon
Yes I love questions like this =) Thank you. Winter is so great, I just love it cold and cosy. And I love to dance, it's so much fun =)
ReplyDeleteReally interesting post. Birthdays are crazy, it feels like time flies :D
Oh I didn't know that you were from Ukraine. I hope you did good and everything turns well soon.
Everything will all turn out fine. It will all end in praise.
DeleteThank you for the excellent encouragement and you're always insightful and heartfelt comments that I appreciate so much Aloha
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome.
DeleteCreo que debemos tomarnos nuestro tiempo para vivir la vida, como decimos aquí "sin prisa pero sin pausa".
ReplyDeleteSaludos.
You know what? I couldn't agree more. That saying, slowly but surely,' really hits different now. It's like, why are we rushing through this precious life anyway? We should definitely be taking our time to actually live it, soaking it all in. I'm totally with you on that.
DeleteWhat a great post and this books sounds so very interesting. I do want to read this book. I honestly think so many of us could benefit from reading it and applying the wisdom to our lives. I was not aware that you had been in Ukraine. So much as happened and I can easily see how anxiety could be a pressure case for you. Best of everything to you Melody...and thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteUkraine was definitely a huge chapter in my life, and yeah, it added a whole other layer to everything. You can imagine how that cranked up the pressure and anxiety even more. It's been a journey, for sure, learning to navigate all of it.
DeleteThanks again for your kind words and for taking the time to read and connect. Best of everything to you too.
I haven't had an issue with time anxiety, because I just go through life at my own pace, that said it sounds like the book has really help you and that is a good thing
ReplyDeleteThat's genuinely fantastic to hear. You've really mastered the art of just going through life at your own pace, and honestly, that's a superpower. Not everyone manages to do that without feeling that internal pressure.
DeleteI so wish I had known about this book when I was young. I don't think it is too late now. Thank you for sharing part of your life and this book.
ReplyDeleteI completely hear you on that. I've had that exact thought so many times, wishing I knew some things when I was a teenager. It's never too late to start shifting your perspective and reclaiming your peace. Every moment you choose to engage with the present and let go of that anxious rush is a win, no matter your age.
DeleteLife is a journey. Rushing through trying to accomplish the most possible in a day distracts us from the joy of the journey. For the most part, I don't worry about what was or what will be because now is what I have. There are enough things to stress us in this life without adding to it.
ReplyDeleteHugs and blessings
It's fantastic that you've found a way to mostly live in the 'now' and not get bogged down by 'what was' or 'what will be.' That mindset is powerful, and it truly helps keep life simpler and more peaceful. Thanks for sharing that wisdom.
DeleteThank you for sharing this books. I would love to read it.
ReplyDeleteAnnie,
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A great read for sure.
DeleteYour post has definitely given me pause for thought, Melody. Thank you for all the tips and for sharing your life's journey with us! xxx
ReplyDeleteI'm really glad the tips resonated, and I appreciate you connecting with my journey.
DeleteNice photos. I haven't read that book yet. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI invite you to visit my last post. Have a good week-end!
You are welcome.
DeleteFrenar la ansiedad, en nuestros tiempos tan revueltos, es algo muy necesario.
ReplyDeleteIn our current turbulent times, curbing anxiety is not just helpful, it's becoming absolutely necessary.
DeleteCiekawy post. Każda chwila jest powodem do radości. Czas ucieka wszystkim. Idąc ulicą, widzę ludzi, którzy zmieniają się pod wpływem przybywających lat. Piękne zdjęcia, pozdrawiam serdecznie ❤️
ReplyDeleteThis is a reminder of how fleeting and precious each moment is. Makes you want to really soak it all in.
DeleteI so appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, especially when it comes to your discomfort celebrating your birthday in the past. I am sure many people relate to the desire to "achieve" in order to feel worthy of celebration and praise....and the feeling that no amount of achievement was ever enough. Thank you for sharing your story and for talking about the importance of work-life balance. There is so much pressure to perform, to do, to be, to reach that next goal. Sometimes, we need to step back and realize that we deserve to enjoy our lives. Your transformation is incredible and so valuable. I always learn so much from your posts and often find myself reflecting on my own life because of them. So thank you always, but especially today, for reminding me that it is important to slow down and enjoy this life. I am a very anxious person in general, so I think this book might be something for me to look into.
ReplyDeleteYou've perfectly articulated that feeling of needing to 'achieve' to feel worthy of celebration and how frustrating it is when it still feels like no amount of achievement is ever enough. It's such a common trap, and it really does steal so much joy. I have struggled with this for a long time but now I understand way better. My health is abetter achivment than anything else. It warms my heart to know that my posts encourage you to reflect on your own life. That's genuinely why I share these experiences. So, thank you for always engaging so deeply and for reminding me why it's so important to keep talking about these things.
DeleteThank you for being so candid and vulnerable about your anxiety struggles, especially when it comes to avoiding birthday celebrations before. The last birthday I ever celebrated in any way was when I turned 27 because that was the last birthday I still had my father on this Earth. They don't feel the same anymore since he died so I never celebrated another birthday. Maybe I will at some point.
ReplyDeleteAlso thanks for sharing that book - I hope it helped. <3
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I appreciate you sharing your feelings with me. I can sense the weight of your emotions, and I want to assure you that your feelings are valid. Please take your time and celebrate when you feel ready. I promise you that you will get there. It takes a lot to open up about something so personal, and I sincerely appreciate you trusting me with that. There's no right or wrong way to feel about these dates, especially when they carry such significant grief. Maybe you will celebrate again, maybe you won't, but either way, your feelings are valid. I hope that, whenever you're ready, you find peace and perhaps even new ways to honor your father and yourself on those days. Sending you a big hug.
DeleteMyślę, że to przydatna pozycja i może komuś pomóc.
ReplyDeleteThank you. That's exactly what I hoped for when I wrote it.
DeleteMelody... wow! Just WOW! You have written hundreds of interesting articles, I admired them countless times, but this one is (by far!) my favourite one! It is like a treasure trove - so many fascinating facts I did not know about you!
ReplyDeleteGirl, you have two degrees, and one of them is in General Medicine? It just blew my mind! Is there any specific specialisation you are interested in?
Also, you have an excellent command of English - no wonder you were a tutor! It makes perfect sense now :) May I know how many languages you speak? What countries have you lived in? Which one was your favourite? Do you miss Ukraine? I would love to get answers to these questions, however, if you do not want to share them, that is absolutely fine, I will not mind ;)
Luckily, I do not suffer from time anxiety, however, I would gladly read this book as it sounds very interesting. I do enjoy learning new things and broadening my horizons.
Thanks very much for sharing your highly captivating story! I enjoyed it immensly.
I actually have two degrees. And yes, I am a doctor. I'm kind of leaning towards specializing in Obstetrics and Gynecology. But honestly, depending on how I feel down the line, I might just decide to settle into General Medicine and be a GP. It's a big decision, and I'm just trying to feel my way through it. I speak English perfectly. Then there's Igbo, which is my dad's language, and Ikwerre, my mum's language. I also speak and can write in Russian language. And here's the thing with Ukrainian: I understand it to an extent, but I don't actually speak it. That's because in Kharkiv, the city where I lived before the war, that part of Ukraine mostly spoke Russian. I even did a whole year-long course in Russian, so that's where my focus was. I've been to a number of different countries, but Ukraine was home for the longest time. I miss Ukraine so much. Sometimes, it just hits me so deep, and I get completely lost in thoughts, just drifting. Maybe, when I can finally put my words together, I'll share my experience about the war and how I had to leave everything behind. It's a story I need to tell, but it's still so raw.
DeleteI'm genuinely so, so glad you don't suffer from anxiety. It truly can be an absolute rollercoaster of emotions. It's messy and overwhelming, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
You are very gifted and extremely ambitious, Melody - definitely someone to look up to! I am looking forward to reading your story, that is, if you decide to share it with us.
DeleteThank you very much for replying to my questions :) Have a great week.
Boa tarde, Melody
ReplyDeleteImagino como foi difícil a guerra na Ucrânia, somente Deus para fortalecer diante das adversidades. Deve ser um livro muito interessante, e como aprendemos com leituras que nos ajudam nesta caminhada da vida, obrigada por compartilhar esses ricos ensinamentos. É importante viver o hoje intensamente, sem as preocupações do amanhã, cada dia tem o cuidado do Senhor por nós, um forte abraço.
Hi, Lucinalva. You're absolutely right; the war was an incredibly difficult time, and there were moments when it truly felt like only God could strengthen me. I do not think I have words right now, but when I do, I will certainly be able to put together how I feel. But one thing is certain: it completely reshaped my perspective on so many things.
DeleteI am retired, so I don't really worry about time, I just hope I have lots of it left to enjoy. And I'm not anxious about it. But I do worry a bit about the world that my grandies are growing up into... yes, I'm a bit anxious about that.
ReplyDeleteIt's completely understandable, though, that your focus shifts to the world your grandchildren are growing up into. That kind of concern for the next generation, for their future and the challenges they'll face, is a deeply natural and loving form of anxiety. It's less about personal deadlines and more about a heartfelt worry for the big picture.
DeleteIt's a heavy thought sometimes, isn't it? Knowing you're doing your best for them and hoping for the best for the world they'll inherit.
Me senti tão dentro desse texto, Melody
ReplyDeleteVou reler e tentar achar o livro nas livrarias. Penso ter essa ansiedade temporal , e nunca termino o que comecei , fico sempre indo ao encontro de outro. É tão presencial que meu corpo sente e tenho febres congênitas e outras particularidades pelo corpo. Preciso rever
a causa e tratá-las. Obrigada por trazer um assunto tão necessário . Um abraço e meu carinho.
"Ugh, it's seriously the worst feeling when you get stuck in that loop, right? Like, my body totally knows when I'm stressing too much about everything. And the whole 'never finishing what I start' thing? Yep, that's me. It's like my brain's already onto the next big idea before I've even wrapped up the last one. It's actually super brave that you're recognizing how much it's affecting you, even physically. That's a huge deal. And seriously, taking a step back to figure out why it's happening and how to deal with it? That's the real glow-up move. I really hope you find the book and it helps you get to a more chill place. Sending you a huge hug and all the good vibes.
DeleteOlá, Melody, achei muito interessante esse seu relato,
ReplyDeletea importância do pai na sua vida, os cursos feitos, o mestrado e
doutorado, a guerra na Ucrânia, o Reino Unido, a sua ansiedade etc.
Muito bom, amiga.
Votos de um ótimo final de semana!
Abraços.
Thanks so much for your comment.
DeleteBardzo ciekawa historia Melody. Można wyciągnąć dobre wnioski. Też mnie czasem dopada taki lęk że ciągle mi ucieka czas i że go marnuje. Trzeba dobrze wykorzystywac czas który jest bardzo cenny, każda minuta.
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